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Foreword - Before you marry, you face some of the most interesting questions of your lifetime. They are not all new to you. Ever since you were very young you have dreamed about the time when you would be grown up and getting married. During your first dates you probably secretly wondered what it would be like to be married to this one or that.

1. Successful Marriage - Make your marriage a suc­cess instead of a divorce statistic. Judged by the rising tide of divorce statistics, it has become increasingly difficult for a young couple to make a success of their marriage. But if you understand the causes for failure and the essentials for suc­cess, you need not end up among the failure statistics. Your marriage can be a success.

2. Ready for Marriage? - Like most intelligent young peoleyou have gone beyond the stage where you believe that good intentions and sentimental feelings are enough. You know that success in marriage means having what it takes to do a good job. A part of your problem concerns your own readiness for marriage. Here are some questions you should ask your­selves

3. How Suitable? - Eventy years ago, when Harry, Allen and Susie Robinson decided to get married, they did not have any books to help them. They had no professional premarital counseling. And yet they and their generation de­veloped far more stable families than we do today, with all our books, counseling and scientific knowledge. Why?

4. Family Relations - Each person is mainly a product of his family. The family has created him not only physically, but his character and his personality as well. Although wholesome development requires that he become separate and independent from his parents, stand on his own feet and assume control of his own life, he is still largely what his family has made him.

5. Money Matters - To this question there is no one answer. It depends largely upon what you regard as necessary. Taking families the world over, more than half of them must live on less than four dollars a week, and four-fifths of them on less than ten dollars a week. Our American standard, while very much higher, is decidedly less than many people suppose.

6. Matter of Sex - Courage will be know in history as the age which discovered sex. We discovered it in the sense that the "forty-niners" discovered gold in Cali­fornia. The human race had known about it long before. We had known about it. After all, we had some contact with animals, even in early childhood. Then all these babies who were being born all around us must have gotten started somehow.

7. Essential Traits - To some people a concernfor character may sound a little on the pious side. They may feel either that character is not too important, or that they can take care of themselves at this point.

But to the girl who is married to an irresponsible gambler, or who is fleeing across the country with a man wanted by the police; to the man whose business career and social standing have been ruined by an unscrupulous wife; to the girl whose husband deserted her as soon as she became pregnant, the matter of character cannot be so easily dismissed.

8. Character Traits - She had never had much attention and love; not even from her own family. Then Wilfred, an attractive boy, began to court her seriously. He seemed to promise everything she had been hungering for. So eager was she for love and mar­riage that she never dreamed of raising questions about his character.

9. Personality - Discussing this problem willhelp to answer the question, "What shall we do on our dates?" If you go into the questions raised seriously together, you can have lots of fun. Let us begin with this matter of personality types, and how they may affect a marriage.

81. Are you introvert or extrovert?

Most people understand something of the introvert-extro­vert differences. As the names suggest, the interests of the introvert tend to turn within himself. Those of the extrovert tend to turn to interests outside himself.

10. Mental Health - Many of our greatest problems arise out of the fact that people insist upon doing what is contrary to their own self interest. The American people are swindled out of millions of dollars every year, which could be saved by a simple tele­phone call to a Better Business Bureau or a bank. Why don't they investigate before they invest? They ruin themselves vocationally by hopping needlessly from one job to another.

11. Handling Crises - Louise was the girl in the small town who always wanted to go places. One summer she met Charlie, a quiet, reserved boy, who had a clean and "honest" face. He told her that he worked with an investment company. He was plentifully supplied with money. He came from the big city, where she had always longed to live.

12. In Conclusion - If all the people world’s a stage and all the men and women merely players, our attitude toward that part of the drama which is marriage will be one thing. Our first and main concern will be entertainment and fun. Our objective will be to get that satisfaction commonly known as pleasure. Marriage will be one of these pleasure scenes.

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